Hi lovely ladies,

This post is inspired by a number of interactions and experiences I’ve had lately that have made this point clearer than ever. The point being, there is an undeniable power that is bestowed upon anyone who embodies a generosity of spirit. It’s become clearer than ever to me that being generous of spirit really does pay extraordinary dividends in comparison to being miserly in your offering of help to others. Before I go into this, there are a few very important distinctions to be made.

1. I’m not talking about generosity in the warped sense of being a martyr who gives to the point of draining themselves or over-giving as is often the case with women.

2. I’m talking about giving in a way that costs you little in comparison to what it provides for those you are helping. It can be by offering some time perhaps, being generous with your influence or sharing of connections, or just being kind to someone who needs some kindness, things like that.

3. You can’t fake this. You can’t invoke this power if you are only doing something to get something back. The power that is bequeathed to you through generosity of spirit is absent if you give with an intention or desire to get something back. It only works if you give from a place of heart felt desire to help others.

In order to illustrate the power of generosity of spirit, I would like to bring forth exhibit A: Constance Hall. Ladies, if you have not made Constance’s acquaintance yet, please, allow me to do you a massive favor and you’re welcome! (Advance Warning, Con is extremely authentic in her self expression, holds nothing back, swears like a trooper and gives zero fucks, so investigate if that sounds like your style, otherwise steer clear.)

Constance is a popular Australian blogger and mum of 4 who basically embodies the words, “generosity of spirit” more so than almost anyone. I’ll get to how being like this pays off in unimaginable ways in a moment. First, let’s see how Constance is a living embodiment of the generosity of spirit. Con is one of those Mums who is seriously in the trenches of motherhood, staying married at the same time and managing the daily crazy all of that entails.

Through her blog posts and FB following of over 800K, Constance offers so much love, support and often much needed laughter in the face of just general shitty life situations. She literally lifts the spirits of exhausted women going through various states of difficulty in marriage or motherhood. But there’s so much more to what Constance gives besides through her articles and her FB shares – although these in and of themselves are incredible gifts.

A few weeks ago, Constance was at school pick up. She was there early and went to introduce herself to another mum she’d never met. At this tiny gesture of friendship, the other mum burst into tears. This mum had been fighting with her husband and had been completely lost and alone in her hardship for the past week. There’s more to the story, but let’s just cut to the chase where Constance offered to share her own, already crammed home, with another woman and her kids in need. This is taking generosity to a whole other level. I don’t expect everyone will ever have the capacity for this level of giving, but it is an inspiring insight into how much we can give of we want to.

Now, here’s how the generosity of spirit holds a certain power that can only be bestowed by living it from your heart. As I mentioned, Constance has a FB following of over 800K, I have no idea  what her blog readership is but she has recently got a book deal, (no one gets one of those without a big audience) and it’s pre-selling like crazy. How many of you would like a tribe of 800K absolute die hard fans, a book deal from your blog and for your first book to pre-sell like it’s a mother’s version of Eat Pray Love?

This is how the generosity of spirit is invoked my dears. In Constance’s heart felt giving, she also receives in an abundance of ways, including becoming incredibly successful as a direct result of her generosity. I don’t have time to go into this same break down for the creator of the previously mentioned, “Eat Pray Love”, but I absolutely see the exact same power being invoked through her generosity of spirit as well. I have observed this same, stunning kindness and generosity in Elizabeth Gilbert, and you can see clearly how her way of being in the world has showered her in blessings.

In closing, my advice to you, dear reader, is to surround yourself with other people who share this way of being in the world. It will make all the difference to how you experience life, how you behave towards others and what life gifts you with in return. If you can’t find a community in your every day life, find a community online that reflects a great generosity of spirit and lifts you up into the light with them. Danielle, the creator of this blog, and myself are part of an awesome group of women entrepreneurs on FB who embody this generosity of spirit. Come join in the fun there if you like 🙂

In this post about the generosity of spirit, I’m actually spelling out how success and fulfillment works folks, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Big love,

Neroli

Written by Neroli Makim

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